Somebody Swear For Me
April 30, 2007 at 7:36 am 22 comments
They say there’s a sucker born every minute. At 7:31 p.m. on December 18th, 1958 it was me. Arggghhhh…will I ever learn that the
same brain cells that are stimulated by creativity are also the ones that control GREED? I had the meeting with two thirds of our creative team today, the two thirds that actually wrote and illustrated THE BOOK. Dr. B, the one that asked for our help, and has failed to return phone calls or e-mail for weeks, e-mailed me a brush off while I was away at that meeting. Hmmm…its not that he can actually do anything with the book, like get it published without me, its mostly that I so desperately misread this poor excuse for a human being. I’m so frustrated at myself that I didn’t insist on a contract. On the positive side… the experience did permit me to meet a wonderful illustrator who is fast becoming a very good friend. We’ll write other books. He’ll always be a loser.
My date with Pap was interesting. “Date” is defined by me as: 1) He calls and asks if I’d like to go somewhere. 2) He picks me up 3) He spends copious amounts of money 4) He drops me off afterward. He did great on everything but the dropping me off part. Drat that crazy chemistry he and I have. We deliberately avoided all serious conversation through dinner, a walk through the mall and then a movie (Fractured, with Anthony Hopkins – fantastic movie). We saved that for today…right before I found out I’d been dumped by my writing partner. Did I mention what a sucker I am? Anyway…love doesn’t have anything to do with why I left Pap. We’ve been in love for 25 years, we’ll be in love for 25 more. The issues we must sort out in order to actually live together are solved with giving up the big house I can no longer take care of and him taking his medicine. Its impossible to have a meaningful relationship with a manic depressive. Made more frustrating by the fact that his is completely under control when he follows his doctor’s reasonable instructions. Then there’s that little control issue we both seem to have…. I have time.
Arbor Day was lovely, we had about 60 people, planted 6 memorial trees and ate ourselves silly at the reception afterward. My last one, I’m glad I went out with a bang.
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J. | April 30, 2007 at 8:38 am
Happy Birthday girlfriend.
I’ve other things to say, but that’s the most important for now.
*smooooooches*
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DaveM | April 30, 2007 at 10:53 am
If its your birthday then Happy Birthday Kat. Was that the reason for the date? It sounds as if you could sort things out with just a few tweaking of things and that magical bit of “compromise” on both sides. After all you have the main ingredient already there…love.
Maybe a break and a few more “dates” and you’ll get there. After 25 years is such a long time and over those years you have both influenced each other into who you are now.
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Shelli | April 30, 2007 at 10:58 am
It’s tough. I’m sorry the other guy was an ass. Can you tell us about it now? Maybe we can flood the market with similar books and he won’t be able to sell it. Or would that hurt you, too?
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quilldancer | April 30, 2007 at 3:44 pm
Happy Birthday! I am sorry the date wasn’t a magic problem solver, but I am glad it didn’t create any new problems. As for deliquent doctor, I hope evrytime he looks at your work his pleasure in the book gets a bit more sour.
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katcampbell | April 30, 2007 at 3:47 pm
Jan – Quit drinking before you blog! This isn’t December!
Dave – Okay, since two of you were confused, it must be my writing. Absolutely correct in your assessment of me and Pap. We are who we are because of our long relationship.
Shelli – Alternative plans in motion. For every evil piece of shit out there, there are two guardian angels. My two shining knights are currently on the case. I’ll keep you posted.
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LauraJ | April 30, 2007 at 4:27 pm
Which swear would you like me to use?
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Leesa | April 30, 2007 at 10:42 pm
Happy Birthday, Kat. Sorry about the frustrations.
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hammer | April 30, 2007 at 10:55 pm
I’ve had major problems with people that believed they no longer needed their medicine. It’s like a jekle and hyde sort of thing.
Can you publish the book yourself?
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katcampbell | May 1, 2007 at 12:04 am
Laura – The filthiest one you can think of.
Leesa – You too need to quite drinking before you blog. My birthday’s in December. You kids crack me up.
Hammer – Yes, with minor editing, we’re going to publish the book without the jackass.
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Mr. Fabulous | May 1, 2007 at 5:16 am
Good for publishing it without the jackass!
Hang in there, buddy.
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Catch | May 1, 2007 at 8:39 am
My ex and I used to have dates. I even married him again! The dates were always nice because he was trying to impress and working with me…the second I remarried him..he went back to himself. I always thought I would love him….that was the hard thing…giving up on someone you once loved. But, over time….I stopped loving him. I realized to have the life I wanted I had to get away from him. and I did. But he will still come here and tell me he loves me and he needs me to talk to him..and I say, where were you when I wanted to talk? Sometimes I will listen to him…other times I just dont have the patience, and to be completely honest…Im all out of feelings for him. But I did try…and try….
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guyana-gyal | May 1, 2007 at 3:31 pm
Oh no. Oh no, there must be a way you can get Dr. B to contact you. I think my family specialises in being suckers too.
You and Pap 🙂 Being an incurable romantic, I hope you two iron out your troubles and stay in love.
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katcampbell | May 1, 2007 at 6:36 pm
Mr. Fab – Thanks for the encouragement. The man is such a fool to mess with not one, but two menopausal women (the illustrator and me).
Catch – I really hope Pap is more into improving his life than your ex was.
GG- From your mouth to God’s ears! We’re sending Dr. B a certified letter saying contact us else. The “else” is yet to be determined.
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MrsJoseGoldbloom | May 2, 2007 at 6:30 pm
Sorry about the ass-man, LOL. Here, I’ll swear at him for you….#&@^**G(&SS$@^&*!…Okay there, and you don’t even want to know what I said.
Glad you and Pap had a nice time, and I think it’s great that you guys can still be friends like that.
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stacy | May 2, 2007 at 8:40 pm
What a jerk! I hope that doctor eats his heart out ever time he sees one of your books in the future (you’ll have tons of them!).
I’m glad to hear you and Pap are working on things. I can understand what you’ve been through, I think. My hubby’s been diagnosed with depression, though I have serious thoughts that it might be bipolarism. It is rough and I never know what will swing his mood to the dark side. I hope Pap gets smart and takes his meds so you can work on all the other stuff.
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Jay | May 3, 2007 at 4:03 am
Life is full of ups and downs.
I could relate a lot to this post – eerily so, actually. But don’t worry – you will get the happiness that you deserve. I’m sure of it.
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John Linna | May 3, 2007 at 6:43 am
Mental illness is a problem. I had a member who was a manic depressive. One week she would be so happy and the next so depressed but somehow her husband stuck with her. Of course she never tried to divorce him either. I certainly would hate to put all that work in for somebody and have him ignore me. Good luck and what your doing with the book.
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Nessa | May 3, 2007 at 3:19 pm
We were born the same year.
The one who deceived you is the ass. Don’t beat yourself up for it. Some people are just crap.
Your date sounds lovely.
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Therevdrkate | May 3, 2007 at 8:49 pm
Birthday Blessings! I am sorry that folks take advantage of you – that is the downside to having a big heart! My prayers are with you and Pap as you struggle to repair and right your relationship into what ever form works best for both of you!
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katcampbell | May 3, 2007 at 11:04 pm
Dr. Kate – Thanks for the prayers!
Nessa – How nice to see you out and about! It was a nice date.
Dr. John – Thanks for the luck. We are making every effort to take the high road and only stop him from using our work.
Jay – I hope you’re right.
Stacy – Just taking their medicine makes such a difference! New book already underway.
Mrs. Jose – Thanks for the swear! I’m a big fan of try, try and try again…which might be why I have this sucker tattoo on my forehead.
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J. | May 4, 2007 at 7:09 pm
WTF?
I’m sitting here scratching my head wondering where I got the idea it was your birthday.
How odd.
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J. | May 4, 2007 at 7:12 pm
Okay, I obviously didn’t pay attention to the date you put down.
Really have to get that speed-reading under control. Duh me.
At least I wasn’t the only one! LMAO!