October 4, 2007 at 9:34 pm 17 comments

Thank you’s are in order once again for all your thoughts and prayers regarding this post.  I thought you might like to know what ultimately happened when my daughter was taken to court for “domestic violence”.  

The courtroom was filled to capacity, one half with convicts brought over in shackles from the prison.  Before court convened my daughter and her lawyer met with the prosecuting attorney to attempt a plea bargain.  She had the pictures of her bruised arms and neck, statements from neighbors and friends on the other times this mutant piece of garbage had beaten her up and her cell phone with a full voice mail box of messages from him trying to get her to violate the protection order.  When the arresting officer read what he’d heard her say at the scene (“got your ass kicked didn’t you?  If you ever touch me or my kids again I’ll really hurt you next time”)  the prosecuting attorney said “good for her”.   She asked my daughter to tell her why she’d scratched  the monster in her own words and then we were dismissed. 

When her case was called they had to bring a box over so she could reach the microphone.  It took everything I had not to jump out of my seat to hold her hand.  It doesn’t matter that shes 26, a mother of four and a kid who’s messed her life up in every possible way, at that moment all I could see was my baby.  She was wearing pink with a white headband pushing the hair off her face.   Even from behind, she looked tiny, defenseless and scared to death.  The judge read off some things about her rights and the charges against her.  Then he asked if the “victim” was there.  The large, muscle bound, slime bag who used to be her boyfriend walked to the prosecuting attorney’s table and all those prisoners burst out laughing.  The judge had to pound his gavel to settle them down. 

They couldn’t drop all charges because the complaint was lodged by the Sherrif’s department not the “victim”.  The judge did reduce everything to a misdemeanor disturbing the peace or something like that, no fine, just court costs.  A misdemeanor on her record is worth it to me.  She opened her eyes, stood up for herself and her children and seems to be back on the right track.  For the first time in many years, she paid her own rent this month with money she earned as a waitress.  It seems like a simple, logical thing to most of us, but for a girl as lost as she has been, that was like winning a marathon or climbing Everest.  This time, it just might stick.


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  • 1. Dave M  |  October 4, 2007 at 11:09 pm

    I’m so pleased to read that there is a good outcome and that she is doing ok. I must admit your last post painted a sad picture that Ididnt really know what to say. Hopefully now your daughter will start getting everything back together for herself and the family. As you say they are always your babies no matter how old they are and I’m sure that your love and support is appreciated.

  • 2. lauraj  |  October 5, 2007 at 1:28 am

    Let’s pray it sticks!

  • 3. hammer  |  October 5, 2007 at 1:29 am

    Glad it worked out. She doesn’t need a felony to put a permanent cloud over her head.

    My father is in a similar situation after he was attacked by his fathtr in law, his family then called the police, lied about what happened then the county filed charges against my father.

  • 4. QuillDancer  |  October 5, 2007 at 3:15 am

    Thank God — and still praying.

  • 5. katherine.  |  October 5, 2007 at 3:37 am

    babysteps…all in the right direction.

    so happy to read the case went well!

  • 6. Linda  |  October 5, 2007 at 5:25 am

    Fear can sometimes be the best medicine. I wish the best for her and her babies.

  • 7. rel  |  October 5, 2007 at 12:32 pm

    Sometimes the system works! Glad things are working out for your daughter. We all make dumb choices sometimes.

  • 8. Delmonti (Dave)  |  October 5, 2007 at 7:15 pm

    Kat….. I’m just so pleased it worked out. From your discription, it sounds like justice snuck in at the last minute.

    those feelings of help-less-ness when one of your own is involved is simply the worst…..

  • 9. Absolute Vanilla... (& Atyllah)  |  October 5, 2007 at 9:08 pm

    One step at a time, may your daughter go from strength to strength. With love and support we all have it in us to change the course of our lives. My heart goes out to you having to sit there and watch “your baby” go through her ordeal.

  • 10. dew  |  October 5, 2007 at 11:34 pm

    Good for her! I hope for the best for her and her family.

  • 11. Janet  |  October 6, 2007 at 7:32 am

    Oh, man! I’m so glad she didn’t let herself be a victim. Yay for her, and I wish her the best!

  • 12. colleen  |  October 6, 2007 at 8:09 am

    I hope it takes … for good!

  • 13. Catch  |  October 6, 2007 at 1:04 pm

    Oh Kat……I know how you felt…thank goodness they dropped all the charges down to misdemeanors and what a great sign she paid her own rent. Hopefully she will be on the road to independence and peace. I think of you often….we do have such similarities in our lives…..someday we should meet…you are not that far away. Im sure we would have much to talk about!

  • 14. stacy  |  October 7, 2007 at 5:29 am

    That is such wonderful news, Kat. I bet you were just bustin’ with pride! Here’s hoping and praying she finds the strength to keep on keepin’ on.

  • 15. frothingatlemouse  |  October 8, 2007 at 3:35 am

    Bless you and her. Kids are the hardest. F* that slimeball. You all rock.

  • 16. Velvet Sacks  |  October 9, 2007 at 1:05 am

    I’m glad the court appearance turned out the way it did. Sometimes a little bit of justice can inspire someone stay on track, and it sounds like your daughter is making an effort.

  • 17. Gela Words  |  October 25, 2007 at 4:46 am

    Awwww. Touching. I could feel all the love just coming out of this post.


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